Wow Beverly, I am so sorry I do know what it's like. I am the one who walked away but only my X spent all my 21 yrs of retirement without me knowing paying off the morg and car's ahead of time then he started driving me out. I took three of the bills with me and because I was disabled I qualified for section 8 hud housing for the elderly or disabled. It was based on my income on disability so I only had to pay like $159 a month for a full size apartment. It was in a three story building with around the clock security guards etc. For the money you could not beat it. I was there for 1 month before I met Tom. So call around and see if any have any low cost housing for the disabled/elderly. Every City, County & State has them. It's a Federal Program I think it's called section 8 for low income people.
As for you taking all the bills, that's not right, marriage is 50/50 on all bills no matter who's name they are in. When you do your divorce if not already it will clearly ask what bills you want to pay and what bill's you want him to pay and the judge will decide etc. Given the fact that he had the affair, I am sure the judge is going to make it easier on you with you being disabled. Not only that, he could have to pay you each month. You will also qualify for Federal Aid for attorney's but it could take some time. Maybe about 3 or 4 months to get divorced. Don't agree to all the bill's just because they are in your name, he lived there and was married so he own's half of them.
I do know that if you own the house then you will not qualify for the section 8 housing, you will need to sell the house first or give it back etc. I do know that the housing here for where I lived had opening all the time, in fact they had 3 opening and I was in there within 2 weeks. Worked out great for me. Just hold your head up and be positive and things will work out. I wish you all the luck with what's ahead.
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